What’s it Like to Keep Your Ego Aside?
Did you know that there is a fine line between ego and self-respect? Well, many people mistake one of these for another and many people these days are too egoistic in every aspect. But what happens when you keep your ego aside and talk like a normal person?
Let us discuss this out here:
First of all, how will you define ego? Well, Ego is a kind of feeling that makes people a sort of narcissists. They care just about themselves and get very agitated when they are not cared about. Besides, people with a lot of egos cannot take jokes about themselves. They like to make fun of people, when people make jokes about them, they tend to show their anger and importance.
Are you one such person who gets agitated when you are not valued in a group or someone makes a joke about you? Well, every person on this earth has issues relating to these things, but when you react very aggressively to these things, it shows you have ego problems that you cannot resolve.
But what is more important is that even if you have such ego issues, you are trying to work on them and trying to do away with your ego. So how do you start? Here are very simple steps to follow:
First of all, start reacting well to jokes that people make about you. You should know the difference between when to react to a joke, when to say absolutely right and when to just smile and react as if someone got you. Reacting aggressively every single time to jokes from people will not offer them a good feeling and even if you have a very good character, people will not value you in the group.
When you like to make jokes about people, learn how to bear them. Of course, you do not need to take on any jokes about your disability or your family etc. In such a case, you should tell people politely that they should not make jokes about something that you are extremely serious about.
People will understand and will not make such jokes again. But if you react aggressively and counter people with jokes about their parents and family, they will definitely not react well. And such things will lead to unnecessary communication gaps and misunderstandings.
Besides, it is important to understand that you have only as much value in your group as other people and if there are 5 people in the group, your value is just 20 percent. If you try to show that you are worth 90 percent and the other people in the group have no value at all, you will lose even 20 percent of your value. So stop trying to impose your value because it shows your ego and no one bears someone’s ego unless they need you for something important.
Again, there is a fine line between ego and self-respect and you should not lose your self-respect in the process of trying to lose your ego. Always maintain that fine line.